Having been inspired by the Resident Weeble’s post from earlier, I wanted to expand more on communication.
When was the last time you picked up the phone to a friend and had a long conversation? A while possibly? I spent my teenage years on the phone to my best friend every night for at least an hour, despite the fact we spent the day together at school. Do teenage girls still do this, or is it BBM, iMessage and Whatsapp all the way?
I was the first generation that had a phone at school and this was end of school/ 6th form college. Internet on phones hadn’t been thought of; writing a text took serious time and was clunky; ringing your friend was the only answer. These days, my best friend and I have different jobs, live in different areas and have different responsibilities, but we still make time to chat once a week on the phone and will then arrange to go round to one another’s for dinner on another night. We have a great relationship and can act as each other’s sounding boards when needed; equally we can sit in silence with each other sipping tea and breaking wind. It takes years to perfect that sort of relationship and something that can never happen without face to face communication to feel at complete at ease with one another.
When I’m served by a human and not a machine in the supermarket, I always make sure I’m not on my phone, it’s incredibly rude and if you are reading this and do such a thing- Stop It! I always make sure I say hello, thanking said human and wish them a good day. They might hate their job and feel miserable because no one is speaking to them and the people they serve are so bloody miserable too!
Staying silent through your day with no communication makes you fester more, your mind is allowed to wonder and invent situations to build up the fear of communicating, don’t let it. We live in reality not a virtual world embrace all things around you in the here and now.
When the Olympics were in London last summer, the whole city changed. People spoke to each other on the tube, in queues and whoever they were sat next to at their events. There was a real positive vibe and buzz about the place, it motivated people and this was all down to effective communication, human contact in reality and not in a virtual world.
Talk, have a cup of tea with a friend, set the world to rights together and if you need to break wind bloody do it! Bet you feel a lot better afterwards.